A trans person's identity is fragile because it's built on lies.
My identity isn't fragile, and it isn't based on a lie either. No, my identity is strong because throughout my entire life it was under constant assault from a world that wanted me to believe that it was a lie, that I was just a delusional pervert, that I couldn't actually be a girl, that I'd always be a boy and grow up into a man. My identity has been tested and come out stronger for it. I am a woman whether you like it or not. The only lies here are the ones you lot tell about trans people. And you tell a *lot* of them! And that's not even counting all the weird misconceptions and logical errors!
And they know it's a lie, so they don't want to hear from us lest we remind them that they estranged their family and friends[...]
Sorry, my family so far is cool with me being trans. Does it pain you to see a trans woman who doesn't fit into your little preconceived narrative? And if the few family members I haven't come out to yet because I haven't seen them in a while end up rejecting me, well I guess won't feel too bad at any resulting estrangement! I didn't really have any friends to estrange, perhaps in large part because socializing as a male never made much sense to me.
[...]and possibly altered their body for a lie.
You know, we can disagree about what makes someone a woman or a man, though I think your definitions are shit. But, it is not in any way in doubt I want to reshape my body with hormones and get a vagina surgery because I know I would feel more comfortable with a female body. I would want to do that even if I knew that there was no hope at all of ever being treated as a woman by the rest of the world. Personally, I would dispute the sanity of someone who insists that a person who feels like a woman, acts like a woman, looks like a woman, sounds like a woman, has a female body including breasts and a vagina, and has swapped out male hormones for female ones is actually a man just because she still has some Y chromosomes in her cells.
Like they may have ruined their lives so they could live a lie. I don't think I'd want to be reminded of reality if I were in their shoes either.
Or maybe I just don't like people who insist that my very existence in a crime because I have refused to continue living the lie that I used to when I tried to be a man. Well, I had enough of that shit, and going backwards now is impossible. So, you just have to deal with me cause I'm not going anywhere.
If anyone has a fragile identity I'd suggest it is you transphobic losers whose identity as women depends on shitting on trans folk.