He’s was a wonderful person
But not wonderful enough for you to accept her for who she is, regardless?
I definitely feel empathy for parents of trans children. I’m sure there is some level of grieving, guilt, and wondering (especially if you’re the mom) if you did something wrong to cause this. But I feel much more empathy for the trans person involved in the situation. The parents should be allowed to process, etc, but then I would hope they would wake up and realize “hey I still have a kid and they’re still alive and it shouldn’t matter what gender they identify as because I’m luckier than some to still have someone to call and hug and tell them I love them”.
But when it’s clear they are unwilling to extend the same empathy they expect from others to their own child, the empathy well dries up. The feeling then turns into a combination of fury at their selfishness and pity (not the same as empathy) at their inability to adjust.
It looks like this situation is one where the parent(s) have been unable to adjust as their daughter has cut them out of her life. I hope that she is doing well wherever she is and is living her life to the absolute fullest!