@Vgal #152492
Well, I should clarify that my experiences were before TERFs had a name. That’s why I say TERF types. I am cis but comments girls would make to me in school, etc, or especially in the locker room before and after gym class, were similar to what TERFs say to trans people today. “Gross”, “perverted”, “you’re not a girl, you should go to the boy’s locker room”… etc… I’m not trying to compare my experience to trans people, I’m just trying to say their version of female what with all the moving goal posts is stupid and ridiculous. None of this was online (it was the early 90s, before most people were online) and the fact that I am AFAB never even came into the conversation, they would just call me gross, etc.
TERFs online today have not specifically rejected me but I get a feeling that many of them were those girls who made fun of gender nonconforming people. While they say they are accepting of gender nonconforming people, I don’t believe they actually are accepting. They also say they are accepting of bi people and they were never accepting of us until they thought they could use us in their attack on trans people.
As I’m sure you know, it’s partly because of their hatred and fear of men that they reject women who are what my grandmother would have called “mannish” (lovely, huh? *eyeroll). It’s also partly because of society’s fear of anyone who doesn’t fall into a specific category easily.
ETA: and the thing about not being able to have kids is more about people like Matt Walsh and his stupid “what is a woman” bullshit. Since the Maasai people use the definition “women delivery babies”, I don’t qualify under that definition. But I guess maybe I’m using ‘woman’ and ‘female’ interchangeably there and maybe that’s not totally accurate.
The main reason TERFs hate me now, now that I’m rarely in a situation where I take my clothes off in front of another person, is I don’t hate trans people and I believe what y’all tell me about your gender. I don’t consider myself part of the gender police and that means to them I’m part of the problem.