RE: How to remind a man that he has competition?
When you’re in a long term relationship, how do you “remind” a man that you are in demand? It seems like a lot of the things you’d normally do to convey desirability can very easily cross a line in a LTR. I’m in a good relationship, but ultimately I think my boyfriend is too comfortable.
This might be a bit harsh, but being in a LTR shouldn’t have much say in this to being with. One should never let their partner get too comfortable with them.
That’s how you get replaced and resented.
Step one is to manufacture the illusion of popularity.
Desirability is a social illusion. It source is less what you say or do, but how others thinks others perceive you to be.
We are social creatures, and we are greatly influenced of the taste and desires of other people.
We simply value what other people find valuable.
Stir up competition.
Men love to compete it’s ingrained/drilled in them since early age. It’s basically their second primal nature.
You want to cast your fishing net, and catch as much as you can. Might it be potential lovers, victims or others.
You want to stir up as much competition/ social capital to yourself, as you can possible.
Surround yourself with friends of the opposite sex.
Not only that but also, former exes, present suitors, a smart diabla/diablo has always a plan b etc lol, beta orbiters and made up potential suitors to use as a threat.
The main point here is to always keep him on edge. Whatever you do you can’t ever let a man feel like too comfortable that he has you, won you over early/never or that he has you on lock.
Comfortability breeds being taken-for-grantedness, and in worst case scenario abuse.
