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So many stories about aggression in disabled children, when parent is basically beat black and blue. And it is far worse, than partner abuse!
Because, you can always leave a relationship with another adult, if they would hit you. But imagine, being a woman, and having your teenage son beat you every day. He is bigger than you. He doesn't understand. Is still a minor, so it's not like you can be separated. You cannot hit back, because child abuse. You have to care, wash, feed, change diaper of your abuser, who has a body of a grown man. And it doesn't even end at 18, because society expect (especially women), that family will take care of disabled till the end, and frame group homes as "abandonment". That is, if you would be lucky enough to actually have your adult child placed somewhere.
I will never forget the videos of a poor black mother, who is escaping and using a pan as a shield, to save herself from her son jump kicking her, punching her head, and chasing after her like a predator.
She can only scream "safe hands", trying to avoid kicks, and ask other children to seize the aggressive one.
For me, this is an absolute vision of hell. To be assaulted, without any options to fight back or escape.